When
women surf porn sites, do they mostly look for stories or
pictures?
The answer is both. I think a lot of women love stories and that's
certainly something they're looking for. I suspect the story thing
is because women are brought up to get their kicks through reading
romance novels and Cosmopolitan, whereas men are initiated into
the visual world of porn in their teen years. And stories offer so
much scope for the imagination, as well as a way to include
emotional contact with the sex.
At the same time - and this seems to surprise a lot of people -
there are an awful lot of women out there keen to look at hardcore
sex, plain and simple. There's also women who like fetish, group
sex, bisexual stuff... women are quite a diverse group when it
comes to looking at porn, just like men.
When it comes to hardcore, or at least depictions of M-F hetero
sex, I make a distinction between "women's hardcore" and
"mainstream hardcore." I define it as sex that depicts a
female viewpoint of sex, or at least sex that's not all about the
man's pleasure. It needs to have a focus on female orgasm, or
female pleasure. Women's hardcore is NOT sex where the woman is
just a receptacle for sperm. There's got to be some kind of spark,
some intimacy and contact between the two people. Preferably no
cumshots, or facials, or the woman looking at the camera as if the
guy screwing her isn't there. And no talk of "anal
destruction".
Speaking of language, I think women always prefer porn that treats
them with respect. They don't want to deal with a guilt trip that
labels them as a "slut" or "whore" because
they enjoy sex. They want to see equals sharing sex together, not
women being humiliated, laughed at or "owned". So women
like porn that is pro-sex.
The standard assumption with women and porn is that it's all about
naked men. This can be somewhat misleading. While plenty of women
really enjoy looking at naked men (and especially naked men with
erections), some women find the penis a turn-off. This could well
be due to society's determination to keep the penis hidden, so
women aren't "trained" to find nude men attractive.
Another problem with naked men is that often the photos are
designed for gay male viewers, so women tend to encounter a lot of
gay hardcore stuff when they're surfing for porn. This also leads
to the idea that all solo naked men photos feature gay men,
although there is no way of actually telling the sexual
orientation of a man just by looking at him (although if he's
spreading his butt cheeks and using a dildo anally that's
sometimes a giveaway).
When
it comes to porn movies, I think women like to see storylines, but
not always. Perhaps more important is the idea that the couple
onscreen are actually enjoying what they're doing, and not being
too fake about it. It also helps if the guys in the movie aren't
too Ron Jeremy-ish. If we're talking female fantasy, then women
aren't likely to want to see guys who seem sleazy or seriously
unattractive.
Of course, this article is still relying on generalisations. Women
are hugely eclectic in their sexuality, and they may be turned on
by all sorts of things. Hell, I don't doubt there are women out
there who really love mainstream blokey porn, just as there are
heaps of men who are downright sick of it. The point is that porn
needs to broaden its horizon and embrace female sexuality, so
things can improve all round. |
What
Porn Is Available for Women?
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The Girls - a women's magazine with porn added. Lots
of naked men and couples photos and movies, but also articles,
stories and columns written in house. All the content is chosen
because it will appeal to women, and the writing has a strong
pro-sex, pro-woman slant. Plenty of humor as well. I recommend
it - because I own it!
Pure Cunnilingus - this site offers photos and movies of men giving cunnilingus
to women. Also has fiction, sex tips, and access to a number
of other women's sites.
Sssh.com - thoroughly touchy-feely, this site offers a gentle, sensual
introduction into the world of porn for women. Lots of articles
and advice, and tastefully shot photographs.
Playgirl has finally decided to go online and their site Playgirl TV is chock-a-block with naked men, as you'll see from their tour. They also feature streaming videos from their line of couples-friendly porn films and there's a bunch of extras too.
Couples
Pleasure Dome - if you love porn movies but you're sick
of wading through all the crap... this site is for you. It features
downloadable scenes from high quality films, all chosen because
they are aimed at women and couples.
Masturbating
Men - 1000s of photos of guys getting naked and jerking
off, made just for women. Access to heaps of other sites too!
Female Fantasies - this site offers pictorial representations of common female
fantasies, as well as erotic fiction and articles.
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