| As
an adult webmaster, I often come across the perception that women
don't like porn, don't use it, won't buy it, and aren't turned on
by it. In a discussion about women and porn, I encountered the
following assumptions:
"Women are on the net in equal
numbers but they don't buy like the men. They are tight with the
purse strings in my experience."
"I prefer shopping over sex…
I know lots of men that enjoy porn, but I don't know of one woman
that enjoys it."
"...as far as women actually
purchasing porn, i doubt it's even 1% of total number on the
net... Men are really visual, as we all know, but women are more
driven by imagination"
"Woman will spend their money
on their children before anything else. Woman without children,
like me, we spend money on their home, clothes, and shoes before
anything else. Couple this with the fact that woman usually make
less money then men and the fact that woman are less visual then
men there just is not that big of a market for selling then
memberships to look at nekkid men."
What these comments reveal is the
breadth of misunderstanding, stereotyping and what could almost be
called prejudice facing those who want to offer porn for women. I
find it simply amazing that people are prepared to make such huge
assumptions about women without really thinking about what they're
saying.
The "women aren't visual"
is the thing that really gets me. This is the standard response to
the idea of making porn for women. No-one actually takes the time
to think about WHERE that information came from. Or whether it's
actually true.
This idea comes from Kinsey, in
1953. He asked his female subjects if they were aroused by porn.
Most of them said they weren't. Never mind that most of them were
1953 housewives who'd probably never even seen porn, or that the
porn available at the time was all made for men. That 50 year old
Kinsey research is considered to be gospel. It's part of the
cultural consciousness, accepted wisdom.
Today, we have new research which
proves Kinsey wrong. We've previously discussed that Northwestern
University research which showed women were turned on by ALL kinds
of porn, both gay, lesbian and straight. They couldn't help it.
They watched a porn video, they got turned on.
Another study at Stanford University in California showed that
women can actually become aroused much faster than a man when
shown an erotic video. It only took an average of 2 minutes for
the female subjects to be turned on... significantly quicker than
their male counterparts.
I'll bet that you get ANY woman,
and you take away all her conditioning that porn is bad,
unChristian, whatever, and you sit her by herself in a room and
show her movies of people fucking, SHE WILL GET TURNED ON. Even if
her mind is against it, her body will respond, even just a little
bit.
The problem with creating porn for
women is not necessarily that females have a biological inability
to enjoy porn, it's more that they are conditioned to think they
won't like it. The anti-porn feminists have been telling them so
for years. Their parents brought them up to be "good
girls", and didn't expect to find dirty mags under their
mattress, so there weren't. Their friends didn't quietly share
dirty pictures, so they grew up thinking they were alone, and kind
of weird. Men grow up accepting porn, women don't. That's a big
obstacle.
Add to that the fact that the vast
majority of porn content is made to cater to men's fantasies and
not women's, and trying to offer porn to women becomes a little
more difficult.
Three years ago at the Women's
Erotica Network I came up with a term to describe female porn
surfers. "Women are MORE than visual". It's true.
Females do have the capacity to enjoy smut as is, but we also have
imaginations, we DO enjoy fantasy and erotic fiction, we like to
see context, and relationships, and hell yes, we probably like to
shop at the same time...
Porn for women has to take all
these things into account. It needs to offer erotic material that
caters to female fantasy, but is also intelligent and emotional.
The porn sites listed on this page all offer this kind of sexual
content to female surfers.
The more that porn starts to take the female visual capacity into
account, the more it will change for the better. It will move away
from the disrespectful anti-woman traditions that are common and
start to show a more positive viewpoint. The sooner the better.
- Grandma Scrotum, 23rd January 2004 |
What
Porn Is Available for Women?
For
The Girls - a women's magazine with porn added. Lots
of naked men and couples photos and movies, but also articles,
stories and columns written in house. All the content is chosen
because it will appeal to women, and the writing has a strong
pro-sex, pro-woman slant. Plenty of humor as well.
Pure Cunnilingus
- this site offers photos and movies of men giving cunnilingus
to women. Also has fiction, sex tips, and access to a number
of other women's sites.
Sssh.com
- thoroughly touchy-feely, this site offers a gentle, sensual
introduction into the world of porn for women. Lots of articles
and advice, and tastefully shot photographs.
Playgirl has finally decided to go online and their site Playgirl TV is chock-a-block with naked men, as you'll see from their tour. They also feature streaming videos from their line of couples-friendly porn films and there's a bunch of extras too.
Masturbating
Men - 1000s of photos of guys getting naked and jerking
off, made just for women. Access to heaps of other sites
too!
Female Fantasies
- this site offers pictorial representations of common female
fantasies, as well as erotic fiction and articles.
Couples
Pleasure Dome - if you love porn movies but you're sick
of wading through all the crap... this site is for you. It features
downloadable scenes from high quality films, all chosen because
they are aimed at women and couples.
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